Dating After Divorce: Will You Ever Fall In Love Again?

Wonder if you'll ever be able to fall in love again? If you have doubts, keep reading, because contrary to "popular opinion," you have a HUGE leg up on falling in love - REAL LOVE - that those who've never experienced divorce will never have.

Why? Because the unfortunate reality is that most marriages are miserable.

A hollow face greets you at the door. Lovemaking becomes boring - if it exists at all. You rarely receive (or give) a kind word.

A friend once told me that when his father was on his deathbed, his mother asked, "Is there anything you regret?" And his response was, "staying married to you." His mother replied, "I know...I know."

How sad is that?

Why stay married if that's the feeling that you'll have on your deathbed?

Now, this ISN'T a blanket license to divorce. If your marriage can be saved, by all means, save it. But if it cannot, don't wait. Get out, don't drag it out.

But if you do get out, will you fall in love again?

Well, if you lost your job, could you find another one?

When you are physically ill, do you get better?

The answer is, of course you do.

The right question to ask isn't, "Will I ever fall in love again." No. The right question is, "Will I open my heart?"

Love is a choice that YOU make - not something that happens TO you.

What divorce can teach is that life is ultimately very, very short. Even when two people make it all the way "'til death do us part," death DOES eventually come. And when it does, you face the reality of a fulfilling or unfulfilled life.

You are either creating that life now, or you are letting life happen to you. Whether or not you create new love is YOUR choice.

About the Author

Joel Sanders is a recently divorced entrepreneur and writer. He's building a new life for himself in Redondo Beach, California. Learn more at http://www.divorceandhope.com